A fallout from the first meaningful relationship and heart break from love number one or two. Spiraling into a roller-coaster of meaningless relationships that follow. Being with one and pining for someone else. An all too common scenario making the emotional burden heavier almost to the point of running away or suicide. A point in life when all common sense gets thrown out the window. All that remains is the nagging annoyance of trying to fill the void of love that has been lost.
A few meaningless relationships usually stem from unrequited love, lost into a tide of so many wasted and tearful moments. In trying to get back what has been lost, a person will indulge from one relationship to the next. This is done in hope of replacing the same state of mind and bliss. When struck with such overwhelming grief, one refuses to take a break and heal first. All that happens is more disillusionment quantified by meeting all the wrong people.
Attention given in the moment becomes a coping mechanism but deep down one feels nothing but emptiness and lack of fulfillment. With this said and done, the person hops into another relationship only to be faced with the same feelings all over again. In times like this it is best to take a break and redirect, allowing yourself to heal. The situation is quantified and the urgency becomes greater, when too much time and energy was invested, in the true meaningful relations, which is now no more.
Fear of getting older or collecting dust on a shelf, will result in people, relationship hoping, in the hope that something real comes out of it. Most commonly this refers to acting on a rebound. When something rebounds this reminds one of anything that springs from one place to next, without actually settling in properly. A sad reality making a mockery of the self and others.
An all too common scenario when phone calls holding very little meaning are contained by people who could not care less. Just a simple way to feel loved and needed. Also a very nice way to while away your time and let people know you are seeing someone.
Very often bitterness and anger leads to relationship hopping. When dumped the last impression anybody likes to create, is one of loneliness and misery. As a cover you wish for yourself to have moved on and also prove a point that the breakup was no great loss.
Humans are strange by nature. Hurt and bruised egos leads to self destructive behaviors. Sometimes someone may have delivered a fatal blow to your ego rather than breaking your heart to smithereens. Most often we cannot differentiate between the two and continue to behave recklessly. The safety net we are searching for soon becomes a trap for unresolved emotions and a greater blunder.
You either click with someone or you don’t. Forced feelings and hoping that love grows on you is a far fetched reality, that most often never materializes. The best thing to do is take a break, a vacation and save your energy and time for someone worthwhile who comes along. In a matter of time this does happen if belief and hope in the self is strong.
All we need is a little reassurance that all will be okay.
Copyright © 2013 - iqbalosman.ExpertsColumn.Com · All Rights Reserved | Powered by: ExpertsColumn.com